Family is by far one of the most important things in life; that is why family traditions [as in mealtime traditions] are important and special, too. Families gather together at the dinner table for holidays or family events- such as birthdays and reunions.
However, when a family clan gathers into one large group, it isn't always easy to please everybody - especially when it comes to food. Our grandmothers, mothers, and aunts knew well how to deal with a hoard of starving family members, and thus family traditions got passed down to the next generation- the secret that you now have; that is, if you have it. Because most people nowadays tend to lose everything, their family traditions water away, too.
In the King family, we use the same recipes that Great Grandmother King used for her large crowd mealtimes, as those recipes tend to be crowd pleasers, easy to make, and most importantly- filling and pleasing to the eye. We also use her blue spade dishes and platters.
Preparing a huge meal for a huge family is a huge task for one person to do alone. That is where family members come into play- young and old alike. The children, for example, can peal the potatoes and chop up the vegetables. Family mealtime prep can also be a learning time as grandmothers and aunts always have a tip or two to pass to the younger generation.
When it comes to all sitting down at one table, it is important to note that the conversations do not turn into bitter dispositions and arguments, as that happens on occasion when old wounds and bitter memories are dug up, not intentionally, at the dinner table. [Forgiveness is crucial. If you hold a grudge against a family member, it is most wise to get things in order with that person before things get worse. Mark my words, I have seen my share of riled-up family members during a family gathering all because of old grudges. If you cannot forgive, then you cannot forget whatever that person has done to you. And it hurts you more than it hurts the other person.]
After desserts (more about desserts in another blog post), it is very enjoyable for the family to gather in the parlor and have some tea and finger food. This is also a winner among the children.
NEXT in the Mealtime Monday series: family mealtimes and everyday dishes, by: Janet King
